Helping you come out of this stronger The past few months in lockdown have been challenging. Many people have suffered disappointments, losses, worries and stress, both in their personal and working lives. Isolation from our friends and support networks has also intensified everyday social and mental health problems – such as anxiety, fears, and relationship …
A client I once worked with said that they believed everything they thought – especially the thoughts about being worthless, fat and ugly… Believing those thoughts destroyed their confidence. That led to thoughts about needing alcohol, cigarettes, chocolate and crisps… Believing those thoughts destroyed their body. So not all thoughts are helpful (or healthy)… And …
Recently I was trying to explain to a friend what I do and he was finding it hard to understand. He is very much of the opinion that, whatever is going on in your life, you should have a stiff upper lip, pull yourself together, know that the grass isn’t greener on the other side, …
The other day, I found this great little video. It uses jelly beans to show you the value of your time and how precious each moment of your life is. In my work, I often help people overcome their limitations, so they can enjoy life more fully. Perhaps it’s a fear or phobia that stops …
As a full-time therapist, I spend a lot of time helping people with anxiety. But very often, their progress can be unwittingly undermined by the people who are closest to them. A large part of the problem for friends and family is knowing what they can do to help. Quite often, you can feel just …
We lost our cat to old age a few months ago, and our children were desperate to have a new pet in the house. So after much family debate, we ended up with a pair of gerbils. “Cookie” and “Coffee”. To welcome them to the family, we got them the luxury Gerbilarium (yes, it’s a …
Had a movie afternoon with the kids the other weekend. And being the only girl in the family, we ended up with Jurassic Park. Again. (I know boys like dinosaurs, but seriously, this must be the 800th time…) Anyhow, the scene where Ian Malcolm (Jeff Goldblum) is explaining Chaos Theory to Ellie reminded me of …
My husband, Rob, recently took over as Chairman of our local scout group. And far from “just chairing a few meetings a year”, it turns out there’s a lot he needs to get up to speed with. All kinds of policies, processes and issues to deal with. Anyhow, there’s a thing called the “Scout Law” …
I don’t know about you, but it’s been flipping cold outside the last few days. It’s ok though… because according to research published by Osaka University in 2011, people feel happiest when the temperature is 13.9°C. I kid you not. Closer to home, when the University of Sussex got 22,000 people to log their emotional …
Richard Feynman won the Nobel Prize for Physics in 1965 and he was notorious for challenging authority and fixed beliefs. In one of his books, he talks about how his father, who was in the uniform business, would teach him not to give power or respect to someone just because of the costume they wear. …
I love how young children make up words. For example, the other day, I asked my youngest how his day at school went. His answer was: “very well-ly, thank you” When it comes to language, children are fearless. They are so focussed on the ideas that they want to express that the correctness of the …
Today is World Mental Health Day, and this year the theme is psychological first aid. So here are 10 practical ways to look after your mental health from the Mental Health Foundation: 1. Talk about your feelings2. Exercise3. Eat well4. Drink sensibly5. Keep in touch with loved ones6. Ask for help7. Take a break8. Do …
Hands up if you’ve used one of these words or phrases in the last week: • Bedroom• Gossip• Negotiate• Worthless• Undress• Fashionable• Amazement• Excitement• Method in the madness• One fell swoop• Seen better days• The world’s my oyster• Foregone conclusion• Eaten out of house and home Did you know that they were all invented by Shakespeare? Apparently, there are over 1,700 words and phrases …
You’ve most likely heard of the “Fight or Flight” response. It’s our body’s primary reaction to stress or anxiety, and it gets us ready to fight or run away when we think we are in danger. But fight and flight have a cousin called, “Freeze”. Freeze leaves us “frozen with fear”, unable to move or …
The last couple of weeks, we’ve been visiting secondary schools with our eldest. Saturday we visited a school and hated it. The open day was packed. The teachers and students seemed disinterested. The school buildings looked tired and depressing. And top it off, it was raining cats and dogs. Compared with some of the other …
It’s Day 4 of Stoptober – the 28-Day National Stop Smoking Challenge. Which means that non-smokers everywhere are currently tiptoeing around moody friends and relatives who would rip their heads off for the mere whiff of a cigarette. If you are one of those lucky people, then here’s what you can do to help… Encourage …
Stress has a funny way of creeping up on you. Last night, for example, we were at a school open evening with our eldest. It was jam packed. We queued to get into the car park. We queued to get into the school. We queued to get into the hall for the headteacher’s talk. And …
Recently, someone asked me if I could help their twentysomething son. They were desperate, as his life was being absolutely crippled by low self-esteem and anxiety. But when it came to the crunch, they didn’t go ahead because of cost. Now it’s true that, as a specialist, I’m not cheap. But I’m not that expensive …
Our eldest will be going up to secondary school next year, so the last few evenings have been taken up juggling all the school open days in the diary. And I’ve got to tell you, it’s really stressful. Not the diary juggling part. That’s easy. It’s dealing with responsibility of it all that’s hard. I …
No time to hang around today, so I’ll jump right into today’s tip. You know how adults will often say they are “fine” when clearly they are not? Well, I’ve noticed that children do a similar thing when they are worried. But instead of saying they are “fine”, they often say they are “bored”. Being …
We watched a TV show last night about magic tricks that went horribly wrong. Some were unlucky accidents, like the gun malfunction that killed American magician, Chung Ling Soo during his bullet catch trick. Some were just plain stooopid, like the guy who failed to escape his handcuffs and was dragged behind a speeding race …
Our youngest son loves singing along to music, and is amazing at naming the song and artist as soon as a tune comes on the radio. But just like most young children, he’s not so great when it comes to the lyrics. The other day, for example, whilst listening to a Rick Astley classic in …
The council arrived outside our house this morning to start fixing up all the potholes. They have to do it every year, because the water seeps into the joins and ridges between the patches and freezes, cracking the tarmac. So by the time winter ends, the potholes have re-appeared. I sometimes think that if they …
So, Brad and Angelina are getting a divorce. Well I didn’t see that one coming. They always seemed to be the model of a successful Hollywood marriage. Always doting on each other and their 6 kids in public. But I guess I’m not the only one who was surprised. The announcement sent shockwaves that rippled …
We went for a family dinner at our local “Subway” the other week. A rather unusual choice for dinner, I agree. But we were driving home from a day out and I made the mistake of asking the children what they wanted to snack on… just as we were passing by. So we went along …
I went to the cinema the other week with some girlfriends to see “Bad Moms”. To be honest, I wasn’t expecting anything more than some light hearted entertainment and a few cringing nods of sympathy from all of us mothers in the audience. But, to my surprise, it was not only funnier than I imagined, …
Recently I was trying to explain to a friend what I do, and he was finding it hard to understand. He is very much of the opinion that, whatever is going on in your life, you should have a stiff upper lip, pull yourself together, know that the grass isn’t greener on the other side, …
Committing to change can be a scary thing, even if it’s something you really want. This last weekend, for example, I signed the lease agreement for my shiny new office in Waterman House. It’s a lovely office space. Bright, clean, comfortable, air conditioned, with a manned reception and everything. And after months of being without …